I love performing and I like to make people feel good when they listen to music. What I want to contribute is I want to sing and I want to make people feel things through the music. You can feel it. You can feel that there’s energy when you sing, like a room will go quiet. Like when you do karaoke in a loud bar, if you can get that whole place to be quiet. I can sense that absolutely. You want to pick music that has to do with how you’re feeling or music that you can relate to having felt before. I think of a time when I felt that way and work on singing the song with that feeling. I had a woman who said, “Oh my gosh, I cried so hard one of my fake eyelashes almost came off.”
This is my biggest achievement. Going in and doing a mainstream fringe show. That’s really huge. At His Majesty’s Theatre and we sold it out, twice. That’s big enough. Now we’re going to try and do it regionally. The big dream is to tour the world and make music, to make people feel something, whatever it is.
My achievement is that anything I do, I give it 100% focus. I never throw in the towel until I’m satisfied or I’ve lost interest. When I was five back in Vietnam, my goal was to climb trees. My family said, “You can’t. You have no legs.” It took me two years. Then I set my goal on climbing a coconut tree, about the height of a two or three story building. My older brother couldn’t do it. It was the most exhilarating thing.
Now I’m a champion power lifter and a tax payer and a parent. That’s the thing that I’m focussed on now. It’s the biggest role for me, to teach them about life. There was a rough time. It almost broke us as a couple. I’d get really annoyed when the kid doesn’t eat. In my childhood if you didn’t eat, you got a smack and you starved. We got some help. I’m better now, learning how to be a Dad, being the reliable person in the family, bringing in the income. It’s my biggest achievement.
Like the TV show says, “Neighbours become good friends”.
From the first-time I arrived to the Joondanna neighbourhood, it triggered the sense of returning home. The gracious welcome I experienced from the neighbours reinvigorated my euphoric appetite to live life. Earlier this month I celebrated my 40th birthday in my new home. I underestimated the work that went into throwing such a large event and began to doubt myself. In the space of a few hours, my neighbour Sue arranged a BBQ and prepared all the food for me. Another neighbour did a run to the bottle shop to restock drinks at her own expense. I sat back and watched. One by one these people walked through the door carrying plates of food, followed by two massive birthday cakes they had prepared themselves. As the night went on I couldn’t help but think about how blessed I am to have this community. Not only can I rely on them to come together to support me on such a big day, but they are also here for the little things like bringing my bins in, cooking and feeding me dinner, popping in to check on me if they notice a change in my routine. This is the community support system I could only have dreamed about in the past, Before I close my eyes at night, I count the blessings I’ve received and the tremendous fortune obtained knowing I have caring and supportive people around looking out for me and my well-being. I feel loved and safe.
I had some friends who lived in their own place. I wanted to spend some time there and imagine what it would be like if this it my home. I offered to do some cleaning for them, and told them they should go out while I did the cleaning. It was great. I liked being there on my own and doing the cleaning. I decided I wanted to have my own place.
I’ve been here a couple of years now. I keep it really clean, and I have my things just how like them. I like to make sure I’ve got things ready when people come over, like something for them to drink. I get people to take their shoes off before they come in.
It’s been great but sometimes I get a bit lonely, even with Ruby, my cat. I’ve been thinking I would like to share my house with someone.
This really is such a great workplace. When I get a new student group, I’m always interested in their background stories, like ‘Why are they here now?’ There’s so much diversity in their stories. I feel like I’m the learner. I hear their nervousness about being able to get through the course. I feel proud that they get to learn about disability support from me, as someone who needs good support every day. That’s the best part. We work together as a professional partnership to achieve their goal. Once they get to practice their skills out in the workplaces, the feedback we receive is positive and I always get good comments from my students about the fact of having a lecturer with a disability. It certainly helps them feel more comfortable about working in the disability sector. I am able to give them feedback, additional skills and confidence in order to empower them so they can empower the people they support.
When it comes to my advocacy and educating about Deaf culture, our history, our language, I believe in compassion first of all. It’s so important to me. Understanding that not everyone has had the opportunity to go through the things I’ve gone through and vice versa means knowing that they maybe won’t have the right ideas or say things the right way. I’d rather invest the time and energy in having a kind, open conversation, and share my lived experience as a Deaf butch lesbian. Isn’t it better to change minds and equip folks with the right knowledge about disability and sexuality than shut them down? That’s true courage. This year, I launched my own Auslan classes. I had so many anxieties about hosting my first ever event but I was pleasantly surprised by the massive turn out and enthusiasm I was shown. If you give to a community, the community gives back. Finding my Deaf community and chosen family has allowed me to come into my own – that’s my greatest achievement. This year, I got to fly to Paris for the World Federation of the Deaf Congress, as a Young Emerging Deaf Leader. It’s incredible – people all over the world will know my name. I’ve already built my own inclusive community here at home, but I’m going to expand my horizons to the rest of the world!
My family always has my back. They have always supported my dreams. I have learnt to stand up against people who had low expectations of me, and I proved to them that I can do whatever I put my mind to. I completed my year 10 work experience at a vet and got great feedback from the vet. I got 80% on my Biology Exam in year 10 which reminded me that I can accomplish my dreams.
Movement has always been important for me. When school was hard, I had to run twice a day, an hour in the morning and an hour in the afternoon to be able to regulate so I could sit still in class for the day. I run on a treadmill at home and I have run in some races as well. Twelve kilometres has been my best race and time. I have medals that remind me of my tenacity.
Halfway through year 11, when I changed schools, I had one of the biggest accomplishments of my life. I climbed my way out of a depressive spiral and suicidal mindset and met four incredible friends who welcomed me and accept me and my disability. I am slowly remembering my strengths and working through my trauma in therapy. I have learnt to embrace my disability and I’ve learned to love it, for without it, I wouldn’t be standing here today.
I’ve wanted to be a massage therapist since I was 17. I’ve always been a tactile person. Ever since I was little, I was never afraid to go up to anything or anyone and feel them to get an idea of what they looked like. Being tactile is my way of seeing things, as I’ve been completely blind from birth. I finished my massage training in 2017, volunteered at lots of places and earnt a bit of money from massaging friends. I now work as a massage therapist, specializing in remedial and relaxation techniques. In the future, I want to have more skills and practice hot stone, reflexology, reiki and oncology massage. I’d like to work at events which will involve corporates, as well as massaging people with disabilities, and people in palliative care. When I’m not working I enjoy my friends, singing, listening to audio books, writing, exercising, animals and extreme activities like rock climbing and amusement park rides. I want to go to Queenstown, New Zealand in the near future to do all the adrenalin-rush activities like bungee jumping and canyon swings. At the moment though, I’m extremely happy with the job I have, and I couldn’t find a better job if I tried.
My team is the High Wycombe Bulldogs. We’re second on the ladder. Last game, we were winning, playing Wembley. I took a mark and kicked a goal. The ball went through the middle, right through middle. I love it. I yelled and screamed. I was on the bench in the fourth quarter. Xavier was hurt. I was holding the icepack on him, like a first aid person. I told him, ‘It’s alright Xavier, you’ve got this. We’ve got this in the bag, we’ve got this win in the bag.’ I love, I love the weekends the best. I love game days. I love getting goals a lot. I try my best. . . bend over, pick up the ball. Jessa passes it to me or I say, ‘I’m here!’ We’ve got three more games this season. One will be my 50th game. Sometimes I tell my team ‘It’s just a game, boys. Settle down.’ When the coach is trying to talk, I yell out ‘Yeah, one voice, boys.’ My footy mates, Corey, Matty and Robbie, come over for dinner every fortnight. I choose what Mum cooks. At the end of the season we’ll have a beer and a trophy night. I might get one for ‘team player’. I’m gonna put that in my room. First one. I love it.